I knew that, in order for any romantic relationship to work, I would need to be upfront and honest about my autism. I had been in disastrous relationships before that were unhealthy and unproductive and downright unpleasant, and I knew that for a relationship to work, I would need to be completely honest about who I am and what I need. My first breakup was really hard on me (even though the guy was completely wrong for me, but of course I couldn't see that then) and I definitely didn't want to go through another miserable breakup again.
When I first met my fiance, we talked a lot. We used to talk on the phone, actually, and I remember telling him in one of our earliest conversations that I was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome when I was young. I was surprised when he just sort of brushed over it and didn't make it into a big deal. For so long, I had been ashamed of my autism, so the fact that my partner was okay with it made me feel much more confident to be myself and not to try to hide my real personality from him.
I think this is going to be a pretty long series about Me, My Fiance, and My Autism. I will try to discuss conflict, how we make our relationship work, how we support each other, how we respond to what is important with the other person... If you're particularly interested in any of the above, please let me know -- I haven't started writing any of them and they're all up in my head somewhere, but that's it for the moment.
Also: I would love to answer questions about my relationship and my autism. If anyone has anything they would like to ask, please go ahead!